This is what I have been trying to say for years… but on this video, Max Silverman says it so well and so much better than I ever could. This is a very beneficial, educational, informative, necessary, crucial, inspirational, awesome and amazing video. One of the best I have seen and heard in a long time. Please watch and listen to this video…
For the 20 plus years that I have been severely ill with my bipolar disorder, have been hospitalized way too many times to count, received way more ECT treatments than I can count, nearly lost my life to suicide attempts requiring stays in the ICU, I NEVER got…
- one casserole
- one prepared meal
- “Get Well Soon” balloons
- rarely ANY phone calls
- rarely ANY visitors
- ANY “Get Well Soon” cards
- “I care” or “I love you”cards
- “Sorry to Hear You are Sick” cards
- “I am praying for you” cards
- a post-it not saying, “Hi” “Hello” “How are you?”
- offers to help with my children when they were young
- offers to help drive my child somewhere
- help around my house… (and I am a single mother)
- not a “how are you feeling today?”
- not a “how can I help you?”
- not a “do you need any help?”
- not a pat on the back
- not a shoulder to cry on
- no hugs
- no love and encouragement
- I actually received no support from my family or friends…
- I was on my own!
After 25 years I understand people’s response or lack of response to my mental illness now. However it does not make it easier and definitely did not help me then. I thought people did not care, but actually they didn’t know what to do so they did nothing.
Please keep reading…
I finally understand now that my mother could not deal with my illness and her way of dealing with it was to pretend that it did not exist. She didn’t want to talk about it. She had guilt and couldn’t deal with my pain. Her way to deal with my severe bipolar disorder was not to deal with it at all.
She pretended my illness did not exist and that I did not exist… until I was well. My mother would only talk to me when she thought I was better, when I was well enough that she could pretend I did not have a severe mental illness.
That of course did not help me in any way, and in fact worsened my symptoms as I thought my own mother and many others didn’t even care about me. I needed love and support and I never received it. People were not there for me. I was all alone.
“You don’t ask the question because you don’t know what to do with the answer. ” ~Bonnie
No support and no casseroles for me.
This needs to change and it needs to change now. I am not just speaking selfishly about myself. This needs to change for everyone dealing with similar situations, everyone anywhere and everywhere in the world.
My family is better now but still have a ways to go. Still no casseroles or flowers.
Mental illness is a real disease.
It hurts. It is very painful… and it kills.
Please open the conversation about mental illness.
Start talking about it. Listen. Learn more. Show kindness, understanding, compassion, love and please just be there and CARE. LOVE and LISTEN.
Lend a hand, a shoulder, a listening ear or just be near…
May is Mental Health Awareness Month and it is still May…
SO PLEASE WATCH AND LISTEN TO THIS VIDEO…
AND I HOPE YOU ENJOY IT AS MUCH AS I DID.
“Talking About Invisible Illness – Mental Illness” by Max Silverman
This sounds way way too… familiar. It breaks my heart and reminds me of my life.
Mental illness is invisible and highly stigmatized.
This is a fabulous video. Loved his every word.
We are all privileged to speak about mental illness and mental health.
I am privileged to speak about mental illness and that is why I do it.
I need to speak more and do more beyond this blog…
I will be posting something important about mental illness every day throughout the month of May on my blog in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month.
Please keep visiting my blog My Loud Bipolar Whispers and look for statistics or other beneficial information related to mental illness to increase awareness, educate, reduce mental illness stigma and prevent suicides.
It is crucial and imperative for all of us to get involved and save lives.
So, please visit my blog every day, but especially every day throughout the month of May.
Mental illness awareness and education can save lives.
Opening the dialogue about mental illness can save lives.
Sharing your story can save lives.
Please see my post about my new campaign titled, “There’s Glory in Sharing Your Story.” I need your help and hope you will be interested in participating in my new campaign. Thank you for checking it out.
Much love and many blessings. Hugs, Sue
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